Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Psalms 37:4
God’s love is unconditional. But we see over and over again in scripture, God’s guidance is not.
God’s guidance is conditional. We can reword Psalms 37:4 to make it more clear about what it means:
IF you delight yourself also in the LORD, THEN He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Here’s another that reflects this same point:
If you… Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, THEN He will guide your path. Proverbs 3:5-6
Now He isn’t asking for perfection. If we delight ourselves in another, that is not a perfect act. If we delight ourselves in another, they become part of our decision making process.
Think about when we are in a relationship, especially when things are fresh and new. As women, before each decision we make in that stage of the relationship, we generally stop and think something like, What would he think of this? What would be best for him? What would he want the most? What can I do to make sure that he knows I was thinking of him before making this decision?
Let’s begin to have that relationship, that depth of consideration, that type of communication with Christ.
Delighting ourselves in Christ and what He wants for our lives gives Him a chance to be like a new husband who wants to show off his new bride. He is proud of her. He wants to take care of her, and lavish her with gifts so that He can show the world that she is His and that He loves her.
In so many ways our world has gotten away from that type of love, that type of romantic relationship. But think deep down, is that the desire of your heart? To be loved and adored and cherished by a man who is not afraid of telling the world that you are his?
It’s so easy to push that desire aside since it’s not realistic in this world. We can easily think, No one does that anymore. No man puts that much effort out anymore. It does seem very uncommon now. And my purpose here is not to tell you to keep hope that some man does. He might, or he might not. I don’t know the path God has for you. But I do know that God wants to be that for you… married, single, divorced, widowed, whatever.
God wants you to delight in Him, so that He can show the world that you are His. He wants to show you off and give you the desires that He has put in your heart. But first… we must delight in Him.
God will not chase us down to hand us a blessing. He will not follow us into our blatant, disobedient sin and in order to give us our desires. He will follow us into sin and give us a way out of it when we ask for it.
He wants us to delight in Him so that He can give us the desires of our hearts.
One of the desires that God has put on my heart is to own a house. I have battled sometimes trying to figure out if it really is a desire that God put in my heart or something that I want for selfish reasons. As a single mom, my life has been unstable for the past 3 years, but it wasn’t much more stable before that either. My seven year old has moved 11 times in her young life. I grew up moving a lot, and I know that she will be fine. She is resilient, strong, and confident. But I desire to give my daughters a house to grow up in and be able to come back to when they are older. It’s one thing that brings tears to my eyes when I think about it. I talk to God about it. I dream and hope that one day I can give my girls that. I know that if that dream does become a reality, God gets the glory because I know that He has directed my path to get that desire.
But don’t get me wrong, this path hasn’t been easy. I have fallen on my face more times in in every area of my life during the past 3 years. And there are times when I just want to give up and let go of that hope because it doesn’t seem like it will ever happen. That is sometimes the easier way out. Giving up on your hopes and desires because they are pipe dreams, is that the better way?
My brother told me something that brought my hopes back up just a few weeks ago. He said that Zig Zigler gave a talk about how Christian’s prayers are not BIG enough. Maybe we pray too small because we don’t want to be disappointed in God. Our God created the UNIVERSE, why are our prayers so small and timid as if He can’t do anything at any time He wants?!? Well, we should change our prayers to something BIG, but the ONLY condition that we add to the end of the prayer is “but only if it is a part of Your will for my life.”
So here is the challenge. What are the desires of your heart? Are you moving forward to delight in the LORD? What is one step forward that you can take to grow deeper in your relationship with Christ? (don’t say something that you won’t do, like Oh if I just wake up at 5am and pray for 3 hours then I will grow deeper with Christ; do something NOW)
Lord, You know what I have done to disobey You. I repent of those things now (list them). I want to delight in You because You gave everything for me. You didn’t hold back, and I don’t want to hold back anything from You. I want to be Your beloved and be lavished by Your love. Whatever You bless me with or guide me to in my life, may You be glorified by it. Don’t give me anything that will lead me away from You rather than build my relationship closer to You. With that, the desire of my heart is ___________________. But LORD, the only stipulation to me not getting that desire is if it is not in Your will for my life or it will lead me on a path away from You. I trust that You know best because You know the beginning and the end. So if these things are not in Your will, please change my heart to reflect Your desires. I pray these things all in Jesus Christ’s Name, Amen.